Posts Tagged ‘College’

Kiddush Hashem

May 19, 2009

Today  I sold a textbook back to the book store for $68.50.  When I went to get my money back, the lady only gave me $68.00. Who cares right? Well frankly I have always been a little cheap and I’m really poor, so .50 can add up. But then I realized this was a non-Jewish lady (I think) and I was wearing my Magen David necklace.

I thought about it for a while…This school has so many Jewish people! It’s maybe 30% Jewish, but the Jews tend to be the most active and loud and everyone knows who they are and that they are Jewish. And most of them are ridiculous. 

Jewish people don’t know how much we are watched. When you pay for something and ask for your penny back, they see it as “a cheap Jew” not a “cheap person”. They don’t do this with really anyone else. 

When a Jew commits a crime, everyone knows what religion they are. With a few exceptions (think Mormon ranches in Texas), you rarely see an add that says

Religious Christian robs an old lady.           

Why not? Because people are WATCHING US.

Jews are held to a higher standard. That’s the way it should be. We are special and everyone knows it. 

Where I am from there are no Jews…people know about the criminals, Madonna, and Israel. If you ever meet someone from a nonJewish area it is especially important to make a kiddush Hashem.

This is also especially important on a college campus, where there are only a few of us in skirts or kippas (not and 🙂 ) . People now “those people say they try to live like jews are supposed to live. lets see what they do.”

If they see us curse, gossip, walk around stoned, be rude…etc. They judge all Jews on this.

This has been coming up a lot in my life lately being at COLLEGE….so I thought I would try to get some feedback on it.

Why are Jews held to such a high standard? Obviously religious Jews think we should be, but the nonJews around the world don’t know this…


The Signature

May 17, 2009

I am attempting to go to Israel for a year, a couple of months, a day, whatever I can get basically…

I filled out a long application (complete with “autobiographical sketch”) and a million other forms and began the wait. I was told by a lot of BT friends that as a girl you can almost show up in Israel and walk around to the nearest seminary, and if you really need help you can get it. I figured I would be fine–after all, financially I REALLY need help. And my application was pretty good.

The people over in Israel have been very helpful so far but one thing has really surprised me. SIGNATURES. My mom offered to get me a job working with her for the summer. I’d only have to work every OTHER Shabbos. My dad wants me to get an internship in Los Angeles. The last thing my parents want me to do is go to Israel for the summer. Of course they think I have lost my mind, and to an extent I can’t completely blame them. I never asked them if I could go to Israel. I just told them I was going.

This is the problem I faced when the seminary I want to go to asked for my mom or dad’s signature…two seperate times. The first time my mom said sure, whatever. The second time around, she asked how long I was going. “Maybe two months?” This started a huge freak out session.

All I’m trying to say is that, especially for seminaries that are known to have a lot of girls that are BT or converts, it is crazy to ask for parent signatures. I am twenty years old, independent from my parents in all aspects (don’t live at home, get money from parents, or even see them on a monthly basis…) but I still need to get my mom’s signature. 

I have friends that had to run away from home and go to Israel with only their purse and the clothe they were wearing. I realize that if someone is over 21 they do not need a signature. Still we all know that many girls in the frum world are MARRIED by this age. If I was 20, but married, would I still need my mother’s signature? I think a better cutoff age would be 18…when the girls are still living at home for sure, probably don’t have a job, aren’t dating, etc.

What would happen if my mom refused to sign the forms?  Would they not let me go to seminary? Does this make ANY sense? The girls whose moms won’t let them go are the ones who need to go the most.


Lag B’Omer

May 12, 2009

Yayyy Lag B’Omer. While the streets of every major city, and every town in Israel, may be full of bonfires and music…

here at college we are studying for finals. No Lag B’Omer celebrations here 😥

I was really excited about Lag B’Omer because I am the type of person that can’t walk to the car without my iPod. I realize this isn’t a good thing. That’s not to mention that a nice BT girl in Monsey told me that iPods aren’t tznius. Nothing seems to be really tznius especially when in college. 

My friends and I threw a dance party with 3 attendees. Because know one else kept the sefira, nobody was as excited about finally hearing real music as we were. They have to study after all. 

Isn’t this exciting? Come on! Now we can listen to Shwekey  and Yeshiva Boys Choir instead of just Six13 and A.k.a.pella! Oh, the excitement!
Ok. Maybe we listen to other music every once in a while. But Ma Ma Ma was definitely one of the first songs we heard.


Where Two Worlds Meet

May 5, 2009

We drove home from Monsey this week after Shabbos and Malava Malka and it wasn’t until around 1:30 AM that we were near our school. There were three of us in the car, and we were feeling inspire from a great Shabbos and the Jewish acapella we were listening to (sefira!). 

As we got near the school we see the people in the car next to us waving frantically. The car is full of college guys with gelled hair. Our friend in the backseat thought that it was someone we knew, and I thought the guys were telling us about a flat tire or something. We rolled the window down, only to get hit on. 
Guys: Where you ladies going tonight?
Tsivia: To sleep!!!

This isn’t a big deal to most college girls, but we are coming from a different place. This is not the world we grew up in, and we have pasts. Being tznius is not an easy thing, and it’s much harder when you feel you are being degraded by random guys on a semi-regular basis.

This is a perfect example of where two worlds that probably shouldn’t meet do, and there isn’t anything we can do about it.